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Dear therapist: i had an affair with a married man - the atlantic

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Without being aware of it, they have an uncanny attraction to people who share seekibg characteristics of a person who hurt them growing up. In the beginning of a relationship, these characteristics will be barely perceptible, but the unconscious has a finely tuned radar system. Maybe this time, the unconscious imagines, I can go back and heal that wound escorts waterloo iowa long ago by engaging with somebody familiar—but new.

The only problem is, by choosing familiar partners, people guarantee a familiar result: They reopen the wounds and feel even more inadequate and unlovable. Seeling might be what has happened for you.

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Think about it this way: Just as you were a projection of something he is trying to work out, he was a projection of something you are trying to work out. But now the drug is gone and the feelings are front and center—leaving you in withdrawal, which is harrowing, but which also creates an opportunity to understand these feelings through the clarity of sobriety.

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So how do you pick yourself up again? You let yourself feel sad. You grieve the loss not so much of him but of the fantasy you co-created.

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You ask yourself if the appeal of him was that you would never really feel safe with him. Mrried might also apply to the person you dated who cheated on you.

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All of this work will help you figure out what you were avoiding by hiding away with a married man, and once you do, you will be so much closer to finding the love you deserve. Dear Therapist is for informational purposes only, does not constitute medical advice, and is not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

Unhappy married man seeking the other women

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